On being able to say No to people
Being able to say 'No' honestly feels like a privilege, in the age where people get upset on a late replies or not liking their posst. Recently I have been noticing who I or someone I know can say no to and who can say no to me. This observation made me realize that if you are comfortable saying no, then probably that person is someone close. They know you, they know you know them and that you will understand. The same applies vice versa. I can say a comfortable No to a school friend of mine for a meet-up because I am busy, but saying no to a new friend is hard. I constantly keep getting thoughts that what if they misunderstand me, what if they feel I don't like them, so I go out of my way to say no. Of course, if they are not a friend and just a known person, I will stop saying Yes once it becomes annoying. But for people who you like, people who you want to stay, it gets a little hard in the beginning.
But I am sure even they would understand if I explained it to them or made an attempt to reschedule the thing. Until then I guess it's a privilege only close people can have 🙃
